It has sold over 1 million copies worldwide.

The book explains how to break free from the deadly trap of offense and to remain free.

All of us at one time or another has been offended and held on to that offense. The closer the relationship, the deeper the offense.

Often the greatest hatred is among people who were once close or even intimate, family members, closest of friends, Christian brothers and sisters.

The truth remains that only those you really care about, have the capacity to hurt you. 

We all tend to expect more from family or friends as in reality we have given more of ourselves to them. Therefore, we have higher expectations and it is so easy to fall into the trap of offense or unforgiveness.

The trouble is that whether we have actually been treated unfairly or just believe (without real justification) that we have been treated unfairly, holding on to an offense is dangerous because it doesn’t stop there.

It can lead to anger, a root of bitterness, resentment and even hatred.

We ultimately lose our freedom and come under bondage, imprisoning ourselves and hardening our hearts

In the Bible we are taught to “be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” (Ephesians 4:2) In this attitude we are also to speak truthfully to each other and deal with offense straight away.

By not dealing with offense, letting it fester, we create a stronghold that can ultimately hurt us. (Eph: 4:26-28)

As always, the Lord Jesus Christ is our great example.

He taught us to love unconditionally whether friend or foe, because love keeps no record of wrongs and when we sow love we will also reap love.

Then Jesus lived it out by example on the cross of Calvary. In His Passion He released all of humanity, crying out “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.”(Luke 23:34) We have all been given much in the way of forgiveness and much is expected from us in response. (Luke 12:48)

May you live all your days in the freedom won for you by Christ. God bless you.